Why does nobody say "You're welcome" anymore?

[KevinHall]

I usually say "you're welcome" after a "thank you," especially in formal situations.

Me Three! But I don't get many thank you's at retail or fast food places. They just hand you the bag and say "here you go".

[Catatonic]

I am polite as can be until someone gives me reason not to be. There have been a few times when I have gone out of my way to help people, hold a door, pick up something someone dropped etc, where they don't say thanks or even act appreciative at all. And usually I say "YOU'RE WELCOME!" rudely and get nasty looks. But hey, at least I still say "you're welcome".

[TrueblueCATfan]

I always say Your welcome when someone says Thanks you...maybe it is the way I was brought up

[KevinHall]

I am polite as can be until someone gives me reason not to be. There have been a few times when I have gone out of my way to help people, hold a door, pick up something someone dropped etc, where they don't say thanks or even act appreciative at all. And usually I say "YOU'RE WELCOME!" rudely and get nasty looks. But hey, at least I still say "you're welcome".

My wife does that. She will give a sarcastic "You're Welcome" when someone doesn't respond.

[luukfan]

When I go to a toll both and the money taker says "Thank You", I have a really difficult time saying "You're Welcome" for some reason. I know its rude but I usually just drive off.

[Lighthouse]

Maybe I'm just old school, and I also in a very few instances have said you're welcome sarcastically, but it wasn't the right thing to do. If we help someone in any fashion, we have fulfilled our part of the interaction. It's also the person we help's part to appreciate our help, but if they don't show their appreciation, that's their problem not ours. Most of the folks I know on WCN don't help folks because they expect a thank you, they help because they care. Now, a thank you should be extended, but if it's not, don't allow that to stop us from helping others.

[Matt Dillon]

Maybe I'm just old school, and I also in a very few instances have said you're welcome sarcastically, but it wasn't the right thing to do. If we help someone in any fashion, we have fulfilled our part of the interaction. It's also the person we help's part to appreciate our help, but if they don't show their appreciation, that's their problem not ours. Most of the folks I know on WCN don't help folks because they expect a thank you, they help because they care. Now, a thank you should be extended, but if it's not, don't allow that to stop us from helping others.

Well said, my friend, well said.

[surveyor]

I've never expected a thank-you when holding the door open for someone. If it's offered, great. If not, no big deal.

On a personal level, offering a "thank you" in response to a thank you has stemmed from a waiter or bartender saying "thank you" for the tip, and me responding, "thank YOU" - unspoken for the service provided.

I've noticed on my email correspondence at work that I and many others use an informal "Thanks" above our signature line in lieu of "Sincerely" or "Regards".

[Joneslab]

I've never expected a thank-you when holding the door open for someone. If it's offered, great. If not, no big deal.

Still, it is disconcerting that people will sometimes breeze through and not even acknowledge that you're standing there.

I think that's more of a thing for me. The total lack of acknowledgement.

It's akin to sitting at a crowded intersection, and then a car comes along that you think is going straight, without its blinker on...and then it turns. Without a single look in your direction or an affirmation that you were even sitting there. Which makes you continue to wait.

That happened to me this morning. Two cars (that looked to be following each other) turned without flashers when I could have pulled out had I known they were turning.

I don't know if it's rudeness so much as a colossal lack of observational intelligence. Some people who breeze through a door don't seem to even realize somebody's standing there holding it.

[Lighthouse]

Still, it is disconcerting that people will sometimes breeze through and not even acknowledge that you're standing there.

I think that's more of a thing for me. The total lack of acknowledgement.

It's akin to sitting at a crowded intersection, and then a car comes along that you think is going straight, without its blinker on...and then it turns. Without a single look in your direction or an affirmation that you were even sitting there. Which makes you continue to wait.

That happened to me this morning. Two cars (that looked to be following each other) turned without flashers when I could have pulled out had I known they were turning.

I don't know if it's rudeness so much as a colossal lack of observational intelligence. Some people who breeze through a door don't seem to even realize somebody's standing there holding it.

These things happen all the time, especially on the road. I think it's called Selfishness.

[Catatonic]

Maybe I'm just old school, and I also in a very few instances have said you're welcome sarcastically, but it wasn't the right thing to do. If we help someone in any fashion, we have fulfilled our part of the interaction.

It might not be "our place", but gently letting someone know they're being rude is helping them a lot more than holding a door open. I bet ya there's a major increase in probability they say thank you to the next person.

[Matt Dillon]

These things happen all the time, especially on the road. I think it's called Selfishness.

Correct, my friend.

[Matt Dillon]

That happened to me this morning. Two cars (that looked to be following each other) turned without flashers when I could have pulled out had I known they were turning.

There's so much rudeness and inconsideration, on the roads these days, it's not safe to assume anything. I've had vehicles come at me, from my left, signaling for a right turn and drive right past me. My wife will not pull out, in that situation, until the vehicle begins to make it's turn.

[catfaninin]

It seems to me that the biggest problem on the roads these days is that driving is secondary on so many peoples minds. They are much more concerned about whats going on with their ignorant phone.

[Matt Dillon]

It seems to me that the biggest problem on the roads these days is that driving is secondary on so many peoples minds. They are much more concerned about whats going on with their ignorant phone.

I agree 100%. Unless it's a legit verifiable emergency, I think there should be a stiff penalty for using a phone while driving.